Life by Design: Reading a Script or Being a Story
“The achiever’s shadow is addiction to winning, fueled by the never-ending desire for more. Underneath, s/he has an even stronger fear of losing.”
P. 121, The Soul of Leadership, Deepak Chopra.
If we choose to never fail, we are guaranteed to fail to grow and fully own the authorship of the life we have been given.
Remember how Stephanie referred to cueing as story? And, remember how, in a previous blog I talked about the malaise of “MORE”? How does our story deliver as relational and not just more noise? And, what is the space you have available for the more? What if there is only so much available space for more and it is being taken up by spam – like an inbox intruder?
A great deal of what runs our lives is constantly running in the background – endless loops of old tapes that have gathered over the years of our growing up/socializing process. These ‘tapes’ include our perceptions, beliefs, fears, expectations, judgments and so much more. Without even realizing, unless we bring them into our conscious awareness, “They” are running the show. So…who or what is in the drivers’ seat of your vehicle – this thing you call your life.
Question: can we call it life and living if the lights are on and nobody is home?
What I mean by this is all those times we are running on autopilot. You know…when you arrive somewhere and don’t know how you got thereJ Granted, this can happen from time to time; but what if this is your norm? I say that if you aren’t taking a few calculated risks, and living on the edge (outside your comfort zone), you are taking up too much space. It is a choice; no judgments…but, there is the question of what do you want your life to be at the mercy of – automatic-itis or committed, conscious choices?
Would you prefer a life by default or a Life by design?
It is a little bit like fitness. If you don’t know what you are trying to accomplish and WHY, are you really getting fit? And what qualifies as a fit life? Perhaps what we really need to do is simply ask more questions and dare to live the questions for a fuller presence inside the choices we make. See Rainer Maria Rilke – Click Here.
Own your body, free your mind! Dare to ask the better questions.
It is our predetermined programming that imposes judgments and ‘should(s)’ (read: absence of true choice), rather than thoughtful reflections and authentic choice. From Man’s Search For Meaning, Viktor Frankl says:
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.”
This is where emotional agility resides. Things become increasingly complicated when we either forget we have a choice, or we don’t believe we have one – life on automatic pilot.