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Communication for Connection – much more than the words we say.
The words we speak represent less than 10% of the message delivered.
Even when we use words, it's not just the words we say that matter - it's the tone of our voice, facial expressions, or even the shapes we make with our bodies. The body knows and doesn’t lie.
Through learning The Model of Human Behaviour, I learned why my husband would have referred to me as, “excessively happy.” How is this possible!?
Ahhh: the case to be made for personalities, how we process information, and what are the respective needs of the various profiles (Model of Human Behaviour types). There are astonishing distinctions between the four types: D (Dominant type); I (Influence); S (Steadiness); and C (Compliance). Each of these ‘types’ has very unique differences and life-giving needs.
High “C’s” tend to want to socialize less & focus on details, logic, and accuracy.
High “D’s” like to be in control, like a challenge, and need autonomy to make decisions & solve problems.
High “I’s” most want others to be friendly, emotionally honest and want to be recognized for their contributions.
High “S’s” most need others to be relaxed, agreeable, cooperative & appreciative.
If/when we fail to perceive and speak to these differing ways of communicating and orienting, we might be down and out before we ever get up and going.
Have you ever felt like this, and maybe wondered – hey! What just happened?
The different profiles (and we all have some of each type in our unique blend) are actually like a different language that includes nuances specific to tempo, details, and the attending emotional needs that go along with our strengths.
Dr. Robert Rohm says we must beware to not tolerate and until we can annihilate but rather learn to celebrate our differences. However, we cannot beware until we are aware. The Model of Human Behaviour is a lot of fun, easy to learn, and mastery of this skill makes life and relationships improve like magic. As a Master Trainer and life skills coach (a “Guide to all things Great” ©), I never leave home without this highly energizing, user-friendly tool.
Remember the adage: it’s not the words we say but the music we play? This learned skill is where the music happens – where words, tempo, and other unique flourishes have the result of everyone feeling like they matter. Isn’t this what we would all like?
Feeling seen and heard supports a sense of worth and respect. All manner of connections begin here - fundamentals in the human dynamic.
What could our world become if there was a little more of “us”/presence, engaging through the art and science of listening, and fewer of our words?
BTW: listening and responding to others in their preferred style (D, I, S, C) accomplishes connection - that sense of being love, peace, possibility, friendship, better relationships overall – even making better choices for our fitness and training needs. People “light up” when they learn about themselves inside this model.
Question: whose responsibility is it to get your needs met?
Close the language-door
and open the love-window.
The moon won’t use the door,
only the window.
------ Jelaluddin RUMI (1207-1273)